Sometimes I catch myself wondering why certain things happen to me in various situations. Exploring things that maybe not everybody will walk through and also thinking about “Why do I have to go through this?”
I have a really close relationship with my mom I think I’m closer to her than I am with some of my closest friends. We talk about all kinds of things from funny happenings to very deep personal things. I tell her everything (Which everyone should be able to with their mom). Now I think my mom hasn’t had the easiest go at life, not to say everyone does (I’m making this point). She has made some great, bad. and tough decisions. One of those was the choice of leaving me and my father. To say the least my mom has walked through life lessons and learned things head on.
I tell you all of this because what my mom has done by facing all these difficult tough decisions head on, has paved a way for me to learn from everything that she has done and allows me to make choices upon those of which dictate my way of thinking.
I began thinking the other day about my desire to be married and finding the girl of my dreams and how often times the girl I like or place in my imagination to be “The One” turns out to not be just that. All of the trouble I have faced with relationships became journal in my mind of what worked and what didn’t. Wishing I had more insight into things I didn’t cause nobody I knew had walked through what I had in certain situations.
I thought if I have a son one day all his questions and all the rough patches in my life I could totally shed light and wisdom on the things that worked out for me and what didn’t. Just like what my mom did for me.
Now I’m still figuring this out as I get older but, I’m starting to believe my mom went through things so that I don’t have to. What maybe my mom didn’t know at the time is that the choices sacrifices she’s made, allowed me to not have to walk through what she has.
Ask yourself that if what your going through will benefit someone else out there. That maybe this hardship isn’t just tough you, but your walking through it so that someone else doesn’t have to.
So next time something is hard and challenging encourage yourself that this to will pay off someday for someone else good.